Day One Of My 30 Day Facebook detox

Day One Of My 30 Day Facebook detox

Written by
Wesley Perez

Just the first day and I’m having some serious withdrawls by not logging on to Facebook. I’m not having the shakes or anything like that but my mind though has been having a very hard time with the disconnect from the social platform.

The hardest moment was the first thing in the morning log in. I wanted to log in so badly. I felt like I was missing out on so much. But I know exactly what I would do. I’d just scroll aimlessly and not even care. Like I said though, it doeant matter. For me it had a lot to do with the fact that i was logging on. Not why was I logging on but that I was logging on none the less. However, I thought more about my addiction. What’s also my frustration of it all.

Like I said in my last post, I have well over 1000 liked pages. Most of them I don’t even acknowledge. I just push the “like” button and off it goes. Like buying a video game when you have a ton of games already. The liked paged gets put on the proverbial shelf you got there. Another was the political pages.

It seems like all I read is hatred from so many sources. Hatred and disgust by so many from both sides of the spectrum. It became overwhelming for me. I had deleted a few friends on my list because their dislike for Trump became pure hatred. I was getting tired of it all. But I digress…

It’s something that just was pissing me off. On top of the fact that I just couldn’t deal with the fact that I just want to be on the site so badly. Even at this moment. At this moment i just want to stop what I am doing and get onto Facebook. I am though starting to ask myself why, why do I need to log in so badly? Am I really missing something so badly that it’s life or death? Because I’m still on twitter. Unlike like Facebook, whwn it comes to Twitter I do a lot more. I interact a whole lot more with others. It’s a format that makes it easer to interact and talk about things to other people. For me that’s what I love about Twitter. 

Anyways, the fact is this. Right now I’m itching to get on Facebook. I’m itching to at least ready and see what’s happening. One thing has become clear and i need to really stick with it. After my 30 day detox from Facebook. If i do decide to log back on. I will be doing a massive purge. I just wish i knew someone I completely trust to log in and help me do that purging. 

Well, it is only day one of this 30 day detox. Im sure it will get better. I will be doing a lot more reflecting about all this. On a positive note. Im not sneaking just to log on. I’m spending that time more productively. Good night.


Hello, My Name Is Wesley And I have a Facebook Addiction

Hello, My Name Is Wesley And I have a Facebook Addiction

​Written By Wesley

Like so many others, I have had a Facebook page for many years. Almost nine years to be exact. At first it was to keep in touch with friends and family that lived so far away. It was nice because I can see what they were all up to and vice versa. However, things started to change some. 

What was supposed to be just a simple way to keep in touch with people became so much more complex than that. I started to sign up to groups and I was “liking” pages that I found interesting. That’s when things were starting to deviate from my original purpose to be on Facebook. It was becoming so much more.

I started to post a lot of things. I was trying my best to keep up with everything. At the time however, I thought it was cool. I had the ability to look up what’s happening around the world. To read what were the newest trends and happenings. I noticed it was getting bigger and bigger.

My wall was expanding to the point that I really couldn’t go back or truly keep up. I had over 100 friends. I had well over 1000 liked pages. Some pages I realized I forgot all about and some died off because maybe they were pages about movies or tv shows. Things that don’t really have anymore updates. They were mainly kept up by those leaving page comments and discussions. I was also part of well over 30 groups. Probably double that amount now. Some groups were prpbably groups that I had no real intention to keep up with. Only because I was, at one time, interested in those groups. It was just getting harder. 

It was becoming almost impossible to keep track with the ins and outs of pages and groups. My private page had become it’s own proverbial breathing living monster. For me, it became a monster that couldn’t be tamed anymore. A page that at one time was supposed to be for something else had completely changed over the next few years. For me it wasn’t getting any better.

Just like a drug. Facebook had officially became an addiction. So much information so much out there and yet I wasn’t quite happy with it anymore. It really started to suck my life like a drug. You know how some of us get out of bed and we may have that first cup of coffee. Some may have that first smoke or maybe you’re a caffeine fiend and you need that Coke, Mountain Dew or maybe Starbucks because a regular cup of joe from home just couldn’t seem to cut it. Well for me it was none of those. None of those did it. I didn’t do any of that. However, I did do something else.

I couldn’t go with out looking at Facebook. First thing I did in the morning was get on Facebook. While I know for certain I am not alone but the first thing I do is jump on facebook. At first it was more than anything to see what was going on around the world. But it became less than that. It became more like I had to. 

It got so bad that it wasn’t really about seeing the news or seeing what my friends and family were up to. It was about the idea that I had to get on facebook first thing in the morning. I had to get that fix. Well it got worse from there.

My addiction to Facebook became so much more. I had to get on. Again, not because I had to see what was going on. It was much less than that. I really didn’t give a crap really anymore about the going ons in the world. I had to turn it on. I had to open the app and see it there. See the Facebook logo. I just aimlessly scrolled through my wall.

Sure when I did that there were some stories that caught my eye but over all I really didn’t care. It’s not like I was interacting with friends or family. I rarely interacted with the groups I was in. It was about one thing and one thing only. The fact that I got on.

I, Wesley, have an addiction to Facebook. That had to be the hardest realization in my life. I never thought something like this could get anyone addicted to. The addiction for me got worse. I’d actually sneek off for a few minutes here or there just to get my Facebook fix. 

Instead of maybe taking a 10 minute walk or reading a few pages from a book I was reading. Taking maybe a few minutes and write notes for the book I wanted to write or spending those 10 minutes and visiting with my fiance who I love and a son I am grateful to have. Instead of doing any or all of these things. I would instead get on Facebook. To me that was more important. 

Don’t get me wrong. Facebook is a tool that can do a lot of awesome things for a person, group or company. It can help businesses grow. It can be an amazing tool to advertise on and spread the word about say the newest book release or the newest cd or video game. Facebook does help in a lot of ways. For just the average person though. It’s nothing more than a time waster.

For the average user it isn’t anything more than just to keep tabs with what’s happening in the world. However, It can be an addiction. An addiction like any other will suck you in. So. I have made some big choices.

I have decided to at least deactivate my facebook. I have decided that Facebook will not have a hold on me anymore. It’s something I will not let keep a hold of me. I want to make my life my own again without worrying about getting on Facebook. 

This is an addiction I will break and I just don’t know when or if I will ever reactivate my account. I just don’t want this addiction anymore. I will have to learn how to control myself. That is a lesson that will take some time to teach myself. It’s something I don’t need or want anymore. 

YouTube Heroes Abuse

YouTube Heroes Abuse

Written By

Wesley Perez


We all know that human error is inevitable as well as human biases. These errors and biases are everywhere but how will this effect the new YouTube Heroes service YouTube is rolling out? First we need to see what YouTube Heroes really is. Will it help the YouTube site or will it just be another day in the world of YouTube policy gone awry?

Lets first see what Youtube Heroes is shall we.

YouTube Heroes

As you can see YouTube Heroes in essence is a moderating group. With a couple of exceptions. Mainly you can help with subtitles and captions. However the meat and potatoes of the program is the role you are truly given is moderator.

Instead of youtube staff moderating the videos they want to sign you up as well as I to help clean up YouTube. On the surface it seems like a good idea. Considering there are over a billion videos on YouTube at this her moment. The idea of a staff of even a couple of hundred couldn’t moderate and see what’s going on. Who is uploading what and so on. 

We all know that YouTube already has systems in place but they have lots of errors and abuse by other YouTubers/companies. YouTube feels that this new system may actually work. Quite simple. Just follow the guidelines and go on your merry way. But what do you get if you’re part of this system. Here is a list of the Heroe perks we will get if we do these things. 

YouTube Heroes Perks

Being a YouTube Heroe isn’t without its perks. From your first major perk in level 2 with “Learn at exclusive workshops” to level 5 With “Apply for the Heroes Summit” 

However the one perk that is getting to a lot of content creators is the perk you get in level 3. “Mass Flag abusive videos.” This one reward is where people are becoming angry about. 

The reward seems cut and dry. However, with the flagging system YouTube has now. How will this be any better, when any video can get flagged for anything. Sometimes these falsely flagged videos can take a long time to be fixed. If allowed, what’s to say that these mass flaggings won’t lead to videos being falsely flagged or even worse those that have a different agenda will use this to silence others.

We know that there are a lot of controversial videos out there on YouTube. The biggest threat is moderators feelimng like they have the right to flag who they want and silence who they want because they don’t agree with the content creator.

It’s not just videos either. It’s also comments. While some comments can be down right mean and nasty. What about those that just quite frankly don’t agree with those that are commenting. You basically will try to silence them. Even if it’s just to debate. That won’t happen

It won’t happen because there are very sensitive people out there that can’t take anyone else’s opinions that will differ with theirs. 

This new Heroes service by YouTube. Is really going to piss many creators and commenters off. On the surface it’s a wonderful thought. Especially to get rid of videos that really don’t belong on the site. But when you have many that need a safe space from those that have different opinions and they try silencing them. That’s when we have a problem. It also whipes the hands clean from the staff of YouTube from any kind of silencing. 

YouTube Heroes system is just another form of trying to control what’s safe for everyone and what isn’t safe. However with giving people with the proverbial losses gun and a badge. Who’s to say that those deputies won’t try something that is about them and not what’s good for the website?